Imagine someone constantly trying to make your life a living hell. I doubt anyone of us would find this acceptable if this was happening to us or to someone whom we loved. Bullying happens daily but enough people recognise it to stop it. Most people don’t even care as it is not affecting their lives. How many of you have called someone a name? How many of you have treated someone poorly? How many of you have judged someone on who they are or what they have done? If you fall under any of these categories then you are a bully! I am hoping this essay helps you to see the error of bullying and also to be able to recognise bullying and stop it.
So what is bullying? According to leading bullying expert Dr.Haber, Bullying is when you intend to harm someone repeatedly to make yourself more powerful.There are four different types of bullying. The first type of bullying is relational.This is when the bully seeks power over the victim by harming the victim’s relationships with others through blackmail, humiliation, manipulation of friendships, or other methods. Some examples include, making someone look bad, spreading rumors and threatening to reveal personal information. The second type of bullying is verbal. Verbal bullying is when a bully intentionally uses language to hurt or undermine another individual. Some examples include, teasing or poking fun, jokes at the victim’s expense, verbal rudeness, name calling with harmful intent, Intimidation and humiliation. The third type is physical bullying. This occurs when the bully intrudes on the victim’s physical space, threatens physical violence, or actually engages in unwanted physical contact. Some examples include,throwing objects or using objects without permission, stealing or hiding things and defacing with graffiti.The last type of bullying is cyber. Cyber bullying is a form of bullying which involves the use of email, cell phone and pager text messages, instant messaging, camera phones, and blogs to support hostile behavior by an individual or group towards others with the intent to harm. All four of these are different but at the end of the day they all have the same effect. Hurting another individual!
Bullying is so common in modern societies that people don’t even recognise it anymore. People believe it is a normal everyday activity. Calling someone stupid, is bullying. Hitting someone, is bullying. Intentionally causing pain, is bullying. This is wrong!
Bullying causes so much damage that people who have been bullied tend to end up committing suicide. Four hundred and ninety six. That’s the number of people who have felt so insecure about themselves that they have taken their own life, this year. Four hundred and ninety six. Thats the number of people who are no longer with us, this year, because of someone else’s actions. Four hundred and ninety six. Thats the number of bullies, this year, who can now be considered as murderers…
Bullying is witnessed by people everyday. But either they are to scared to stop it or they dont even realise it is happening. Victims of bullying would go to adults for help but the common response is, “Kids will be kids” or “They are just playing”. The bully would then think its acceptable to bully and they won’t stop. This is the reason why adults need to come down hard and stomp out bullying!
In Lancashire, April 1967, the first recognised bullycide was Steven Shepherd. In April 1998, Brian Franklish died whilst trying to escape the children bullying him. In Yorkshire, twelve year old Debbie Shaw agreed to a challenge by other girls to end her bullying and suffering. She fought the school bully and died of her injuries.Thirteen year old Roger Hillyard was found dead near his home after a lifetime of bullying.Sisters Samantha and Michaela Kendal were so taunted and bullied about being overweight, they went on a hunger strike. Sadly both died. Fifteen year old Darren Steele was found hanged in his bedroom after a life of bullying and victimisation at school. In West Midlands, twelve year old, schoolboy, Stephen Woodhall hanged himself with his brother’s school tie rather than facing the bullies in school.”He must have been going through hell,” his father, Ken, said. Later, forty-seven-year-old Kenneth Woodhall also hanged himself. He had never got over the hanging suicide of his son Stephen. In September 1997, 13-year-old Salvation Army girl Kelly Yeomans took a fatal overdose after months of tormenting and bullying. Her bullies were given a slap on the wrist. This is wrong and you know it!
With technology becoming more advanced, bullying has become easier and easier. This is because more and more people are signing up and using social networking sites. for example the most common are ‘Facebook’, ‘Twitter’ and ‘Ask.fm’. Cyber bullying is probably the most common out of the four types of bullying, the reason for this is because bullies feel safe to bully because they have a screen to hide behind and because on many of these sites they have the choice to be anonymous.
Different people bully for different reasons. Jealousy, popularity and personally issues are the main reasons. Bullies will even bully to follow the others. This is because in society today nobody wants to feel left out or isolated . Also people pick on others because they are different and weak.
Nine hundred thousand people suffer, or have suffered from bullying in Canada. This means that one in every five people have experienced what it’s like to be in fear of someone because they are basically manipulating and controlling your life.
Calling someone fat doesn’t make you any skinnier. Calling someone stupid does make you any smarter. Calling someone ugly doesn’t make you any better looking. This is why we should put a stop to bullying for once and for all. Let’s bully bullying!
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